Sometimes something happens that is frustrating, irritating, or just plain awful. In the midst of crisis it can seem impossible to realize that everything happens for me, not to me. It's easier to look back and see the benefits once things are resolved. One of the first lessons in A Course in Miracles is “I can see peace instead of this.” I would rather find the turn arounds sooner than later, and save myself a lot of suffering.

For example, once I was expecting a big check in the mail. But alas! It was much smaller. I had plans to spend the money on a Hawaiian vacation, and now I'm disappointed, resentful, victimized and pissed off. Thoughts like “why me?” and “it isn't fair” looped through my mind. Instead of wallowing in those emotions, I got still. I asked myself, how is this “crisis” better for me? Here's what I came up with: 1. I can plan an inexpensive stay-cation. 2. I can explore many beautiful natural wonders around me. 3. I can treat myself with delicious healthy food and the company of loved ones. 4. I will grow in appreciation for what I have. Here, now. 5. I'm grateful for this opportunity to realize how everything happens for me, not to me. What a gift!

Acceptance is good, and loving what is-- is the ultimate peace.